[I Was Naked]
When I Wrote ThisStick A Fork In Me
2007-12-12
I'm done.
At some point in the very recent past, I've discovered that men who I thought knew me, and understood me, take any comment I say that doesn't agree with theirs, and turn it into a negative. Or I'm just wrong, but couched in verbiage of " You're not always right you know."
I beg to differ. But I am.
One thing I learned a long time ago, believe it or not, is how to listen. My brain does calculate about a million thoughts a minute, but I don't engage the orbiculares orris unless I'm damn sure of what is going to come out of it. As a matter of fact, I love engaging in conversation with people, just to hear what they have to say and learn from them if I find it to be worthwhile and something that holds my interest, or in the off chance that I'll be playing on a game show one day and need to remember that Edda van Heemstra was better known as Audrey Hepburn.
Are men truly threatened by an intelligent woman? I don't play dumb at work, I just keep my mouth shut because the moments I do open it, I'm snarling at someone who just got on my last nerve. I don't work in a company conducive to the owner wanting anyone's opinion but his own, but you better know the answer before he asks the question. I wear about 18 different hats a day and and if there is a problem, normally it ends up on my desk. That's what I'm paid to do, so I do it.
But when I'm not working, generally I'm helping somebody else on another level. They want my help, they ask for my help, they even realize they can't afford to pay me for my help. So if its that important to garner my assistance, than why don't you trust me or my experience?
Several things have happened lately that have really hit home, since one of the situations lives in my home. My roommate has asked me to partner up with him in some side businesses. Lord knows I have the accounting and IT skills, not to mention the administrative skills necessary to run his business for him. I even started a business for him, did the marketing, put it all together and basically handed him a turn key business to run. It took him a while to decide that he wanted to do it, so I sent out the marketing flyers and within one day he had a client and was in business, doing enough to get his feet wet, and allow him enough time to do his other endeavors.
What I find amazing, but not amusing, is I can tell him something - business advice, and based on his prior experience he won't listen to me if I tell him the difference between running his business as cash or accrual. I'm-just-wrong.
I don't know what exactly happened, I'm still scratching my head about it, then I get called out for over analyzing. Yes, I'm in the classic no win situation, yet I'm supposed to have the home field advantage. After all, it is my house, and you're living rent free, and I'm supporting us. I think that should at least give me a smidgen of respect for my opinion, if nothing else.
Tonights issue once again will be 'my fault' because I poked the bear. I listened to a situation, that at the end I opined that maybe someone who lives closer than two and a half hours away, fetch his friend from the hospital. I also said this knowing his friend has a lot of people who treat his home as a flophouse. My belief is one of those leeches could drive the twenty minutes to the hospital as opposed to him.
I got treated to a barrage of "who are you trying to defend, why can't I help my friend?" but I wasn't allowed to finish my thought. I simply walked out of the kitchen,biting my tongue, away from the very dangerous shiny forks that were in arms reach.
Bishop\'s Fantasy? (2007-12-12)
Say it with me - "Forks are not for stabbing." Hey, that could be the title for a new children's book along the lines of "Hand Are Not For Hitting." Or, as my friend Pat often tells me, "Shut your mouth and let your tongue beat your brains to death." Personally, I'm not sure that's always the best policy, but at least it's a catchy phrase. Tomorrow is a new day and, hopefully, a better one for you.
surrogate (2007-12-12)
Forks work good.
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