[I Was Naked]
When I Wrote ThisThankfully Over
2007-11-21
Anyone who follows along in my little saga knows that I'm thankful to have my old roommate living with me again. Twenty years has passed and we are still very compatible and there is a mutual respect for each others strengths and we do work well together. Knowing my time frame that the bankruptcy would be discharged in Jan 08, and giving him some time to do the outdoor things necessary to have my house market ready, then allowing for the softening of the existing home market, I had no problem promising him a year to get on his feet before I moved to California.
Gordon wasn't too pleased, but again, his lawyers are doing nothing except going for the title of longest drawn out divorce in history. Screw term limits of Congress, how about a common law divorce? Say after three years and there hasn't been any movement, I say it's automatically over, and the person holding out loses by default whatever they were holding out for, and the lawyers can't suck any more fees out of their clients. I keep telling him he has to file a complaint to the bar in California once this is resolved. But back to the universe laughing at my sorry ass.
My lawyer called me yesterday to let me know that my bankruptcy had been discharged. Just like that...two months early.
Now the normal person would be whoopin' it up, I just sat there without any emotion, one because I was at work, and two I was locked into a promise of a year, that I won't go back on, regardless of my wants and needs.
I'm learning some hard, but well needed lessons with this LDR. I'm actually thankful that they are being presented to me in the way it is, because truly circumstances are out of my control, and Gordon will not take any financial help to resolve his problems, which in my estimation is the first man in my life who refuses money from me. He's in a terrible bind right now, and his world is crashing in around him, and he is at the mercy of lawyers. His comment to me was this, " Consider it just like Rwanda, its a horrible situation, but there is nothing you can do about it."
My reply was, "The hell there isn't, just call me Angelina Jolie."
Now not in any universe, parallel or otherwise would I ever be mistaken for the lovely and wealthy Mrs. Pitt, nee Jolie. But I feel torn between not being able to resolve a problem for someone that I care about deeply, yet thankful for once that it isn't being put on my shoulders. He truly is the man for me, but again..big FU to the universe that I can't get there until his divorce is behind him, and I'm financially stable to relocate across country. No doubt, I'll need that year, or at least that's what I'm telling myself as I gaze longingly to the west. I know, I know, best laid plans of mice and men, just keep yucking it up universe, it's all fun and games until someone loses an eye.
Foresight and experience gives me the grace I need to know things do work out the way they are supposed to, and just because we may not like how things are going right now, doesn't mean it's wrong. It just makes it life.
Thankfully, that's not over.
surrogate (2007-11-25)
Oh hell hun, I don't want you to feel like things have changed too much in the world. Feel free to send me all your money and I'll use it in Gordon's stead.
Seriously, hope your patience pays off.
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